Communicating Confidence
In business and in life, we love confident people. We love it when people follow through and do what they say they are going to. We love people who know what they believe and can communicate that with confidence. But, how does someone become more confident? Do some people just have it and other people don’t? If you aren’t very confident, how do you get more confidence?
There are two things people with low confidence do, that someone with higher confidence does not do.
Talk about their insecurities all the time.
Tell themself about their insecurities all the time.
Can it be that simple? Talk less about your insecurities? Listen… no one is perfect. Not a single one of us “has it all together.” Most of us are spending most of our time thinking about ourself, which means very few of us are thinking about everyone else (e.g. you), except wondering what other people think about us, and often assuming the answer.
So, instead, assume that people think positively about you. They are not looking at you with a microscope searching for any and every area that you aren’t good enough. So if you assume the best instead of your current self talk, all of a sudden life becomes a whole lot more peaceful.
Something that has helped me in various seasons of my life is to write things on the mirror and read it out loud to myself every day. This has improved my self talk drastically over time because life is not a vacuum. You can’t take the negative self talk out without an exchange for something else. So, when I have had a lot of negative self talk in my mind, I write down a lot of positive things about myself or even things I want to believe about myself. I stand in my best Superwoman pose and then I speak them over myself as if they are facts. It is interesting that over time I begin to believe those things, even if I didn’t believe them initially.
When it comes to talking about your insecurities, people only know the things about you that you tell them. If you don’t tell them about your insecurities, you aren’t giving them the chance to know that about you, so there is nothing left for them to believe, except that you are confident.
Your brain also only knows the things that it has been taught. So, if you encourage yourself and tell yourself how awesome you are and expect a positive outcome for anything you work on, usually your mind will follow your beliefs.
